Taking Care of Elderly Parents? How to keep them safe and healthy. Having the opportunity to socialize with and give back to your elderly parents can be an unexpected gift. But as rewarding as it is, it can also be exhausting, frustrating and uncomfortable at times. Here are some ways to be sensible and enjoy your time with your loved ones while you still have them.
No, really. Self-care is an engine these days, but the only reason everyone talks about it is because no one does. Our culture is so conditioned to value productivity and reward people who ignore their own basic needs that it can feel almost uncomfortable to take time for yourself. But if you really care about being your best while helping others, you will learn to take care of your own well-being as well.
Just as an energy inspection can reveal ways to save money and make your home more efficient, a review of your parents' home can ease your mind and prevent problems in the long run. Look for ways to help them get around, avoid injuries and complete daily life more easily. You may want to consider installing safety rails, safety locks, a video surveillance system or sliding mats or floor coverings to help your parents stay safe. Consult an expert to find out your options and make a plan within your budget.
You may not be able to afford to hire a nurse or professional caregiver to come in and give you some relief. If not, look for other ways to get a much needed delay. Maybe a neighbor can come in and check in on an easier day so you can have a moment left alone. Or maybe it would help to have a friend with you when you visit a parent with dementia. Find ways to get support, even if it is in small ways.
Even if your parents are in good health, it can not be denied that time is short. If the alternative is true and one or both of your parents are chronically ill, the loss may feel imminent. Many people go through a kind of "for-grief" phase where they begin to process a loss before it actually happens. Do not be surprised if you need to cry, feel panic or angry or start experiencing some grief symptoms early in the process.
Talking about death is never easy, but not knowing your parents' wishes for medical care and funeral plans and not being able to ask them is even worse. There are many simple forms and online resources that can help you create an advanced directive that describes a person's wishes if they do not respond or can not make decisions for themselves. Consult your family's spiritual counselor or a trusted physician if you need help and guidance guiding your parents through the process.
If you are in a care position, you can get stuck as a fixer. It is important to take the time to appreciate the good times and remind yourself why you are doing what you are doing. Whether you are scheduling a "duty free" lunch with your elderly parent or just making a point to sit down for 1
For all your insurance questions, call or contact Keller-Brown Insurance Services today.